A
look at both the difficulties and the advantages that a
31 year old man may experience within his romantic relationships
and his long term relationships.
Several
themes that I can see for this young man include the impulsive
nature of his love relationships and his search for perfection
in or through his women . With these planetary placements
he may also be subject to poor control over his emotions
within relationships which in turn could lead to feelings
of jealousy and over-possessiveness. There may also be a
strong sense of competitiveness if the partner in his love
relationship has a strong Aries accent. This in turn may
lead to some pretty energetic interactions as both fight
to gain some form of superiority within their relationship.
I would
expect that this man experiences very strong feelings and
that expressing them and his emotional concern for others
through duty and doing things will be quite a strong need.
Basically,
this man has a strong romantic nature and his love life
and general relationships tend to go through phases. Because
of this, he may tend to begin and end romances on a whim
or depending on his moods.
Also,
there may be poor control over his emotions and he may tend
to express them through being overly critical of love interests,
and possibly through jealousy and envy. At times he may
be too absorbed in his own feelings.
I would
expect that this aspect of his personality possibly would
not be noticed immediately. I feel that this is possibly
something that this man is trying to conceal or that there
is something clandestine involved within some of his romantic
attachments.
The
more advantageous uses of these energies would include a
single-minded devotion to this man’s love interest which
is not based solely on the sexual side of the relationship.
It could also symbolise his need to improve himself for
or through a love relationship. Also, planetary placements
indicate the ability to put practical needs of self and
others before meeting his own feeling needs.
Marriage
is very important to this man, although he has a potentially
difficult indication for long term relationships. With it,
this man may be living in a dream world where it comes to
his beliefs on what his partner should be like.
The
partner may be highly glamorized and fantasy-like so when
she is seen for what she is, a normal woman: he may run
from this reality.
Consequently,
this man may marry frequently as he attempts to find the
‘perfect’ wife/partner. This may be particularly difficult
for this person as his need for a deep intimacy shared with
his partner Vs his idealisation and possible inability to
deal with her in realistic terms may be difficult to blend
or compromise.
This
man may sway towards using psychological and emotional manipulation
to coerce his partner to fit into the mould of his ideal
wife or partner or the partner may act out these themes.
But
on a more positive note, he has a basic requirement to be
maintaining a deep, long-lasting marriage or long term relationship
and because of this he may learn to overcome some of these
more challenging planetary placements so that he may find
or the create his ‘ideal’ partner. Perhaps he may form a
lasting relationship with a woman who has strong accents
on Scorpio and/or Pisces that will help him live out these
energies on a positive and uplifting note. Also I would
expect that he would be very faithful to his partner if
she displayed loyalty within the partnership.
Within
his long term relationships, equality may also be experienced
as an issue to be dealt with. He may marry somebody who
needs his help in some way or needs to be ‘rescued’ or vice
a versa. Therefore there may be an unequal power balance
between himself and the partner. One of the issues that
this man may have to learn to overcome would be that he
has to learn to have a relationship with somebody on equal
terms.
Also,
there may be some confusion within this man himself about
what he consciously seeks within marriage. Consequently
he may have poor discrimination when forming a long term
relationship. Another possibility is that he could lead
a completely impractical existence within marriage or on
a positive note he may actually have reached and attained
his own ‘ideal’ marriage.
There
is also the possibility that he will elude commitment because
this may cause him to feel confined within the walls of
marriage. This may cause difficulties as this man may not
want to be ‘confined’ to one person in a long term relationship.
In
summary, this man tends to form and end love relationships
on emotional impulse, tends to be very critical of his loved
ones and is emotionally self-absorbed. He seeks a deep intimacy
within long term relationships and marriage is very important
to him but may be unrealistic in his expectations within
them. He may marry frequently as he searches for his ideal
mate.
On
a positive note though, even though this man tends to form
his relationships on impulse, he does tend to show his love
and affection through being of service to the people he
cares for. If the relationship progresses into a long term
relationship he has the ability to be sensitive, loyal and
devoted within marriage, as long as the partner shows some
form of loyalty in return. He also has the potential to
put his partner first and keep the romance within his marriage
alive.
